Third time the charm?

I met somebody recently who is going through a rough season in life and found themself in a pretty bad place. I was told that I am the third person this week to tell them that they should find themself a church. I heard an amazing message on Sunday that hit me really hard and fortunately I was able to make the connection and invitation to church. While there are churches out there that will shun somebody in a rough patch of life, I assured this person that they already have a home and a whole family cheering them on.

Is this you? Are you suffering through some season of life right now? Have you prayed and prayed but can’t seem to hear the answer? Strength in numbers. How can I pray for you today? What can I do to help you find your crew to pray with you? Is this time the motivation you need to find your way into this family?

Seeking Public Speaking Opportunities

Since publishing The Double-Edged Sword almost one year ago, I have developed a public lecture format to address the themes contained in the book. The presentation is available in both its original Christian format or a secular version for more diverse crowds.

I am currently seeking to speak at EMS conferences and seminars as well as any open public forum. Educational applications are also of interest. To request an in-person presentation, please fill out the contact tab of this website.

The Double-Edged Sword shines light on the idea that we don’t really take the time to get to know our coworkers. In many cases, we take them at face value for the duration of the shift. We don’t hear of their struggles. We don’t notice when they’re a little off. We don’t know what kind of conditions they live in when they get home. Suicide sends shockwaves through any workplace. While we can never truly see inside another person’s mind to see what they are thinking, we can be more open to them to understand. Included in the presentation is consideration of others and suicide awareness.

New Year, Better You?

How cliche is it that every January 1st everyone talks about new year, new you?! What does that even mean? For some, to lose weight; typically in a gym or in their credit cards. But why does this define a better you?

Is it not possible to be a great person and still have debts or a little extra around the waistline? Why are we defined by our physical or fiscal wellness? I lost 80 lbs one year and didn’t become any better a person than I was when I was pushing 300 lbs. I became proud, actually arrogant. I was full of myself. I wore swimwear as a joke that I never should have been wearing. I was obsessed with how I looked in selfies and photos, especially in the right light or the right filter.

So when I let go of this pride that I was abusing and allowed my focus to be less selfie-ish, I found a more fulfilling place in my heart that I enjoyed being in. When we develop ourselves spiritually, it has a much stronger hold than developing ourselves physically or monetarily. Money is a great thing if used correctly, but it doesn’t define who you are. Spoiler alert: Your bank account and body do not follow you to Heaven.

One of the first Sundays this year, our pastor delivered a message that began with reflecting on the last 2 years in this state of emergency mindset. Everybody just wants to get back to normal. What did normal look like for you? Greedy? Proud? Glutton? Arrogant? Broke? So why, 2 years later, would we still be talking about getting back to normal? Our pastor’s message was to get back to better.

This year I am not recording a cheesy New Year’s resolution. It’s not worth it to me. I would rather focus on looking back at the last two years, strengths and weaknesses, and take all the lessons learned and just grow myself. I’ve been blessed with a particular opportunity to grow myself professionally. It didn’t come gracefully, but it came in the way He wanted me to receive it. What would it take to help you roadmap your own past and future and come back better than you’ve ever been before? Your past choices do not dictate your future.

What if rather than quantifying yourself by weight or debt, you measure yourself by the spiritual change you can create in yourself and others. Impossible? You’re right. You cannot make a spiritual change on your own. Could this year be the year that you finally humble yourself and accept that sin is inside you and everybody else? Could this year be the year that you find your church to guide you on your own spiritual transformation? I would encourage you to try. The physical and fiscal goals are fine, but I think you might find that achieving your spiritual goals is much more fulfilling. Let me help you. If you would like help finding spiritual guidance, message me. I’d be happy to share my story of finding my own way. Being a Christian doesn’t make me perfect, but it does give me a perfect example to follow. And it helps me accept that no matter how hard I try to achieve that level of perfection, I will always fall short. After all, I’m only human. God bless you this year and always.

What do you need in a church?

Growing up the way I did, I thought Sundays were the most boring days of the week. I HAD to go to church with my parents. They had to bribe me with so much: snacks, coloring books, matchbox cars. What was it about going to church that turned me away from it? Hymns? Rituals? I know I always felt like I was doing something wrong all week and could finally be absolved of everything if only for this hour on Sunday.

Why did church have to be like this? I had one impression of church, so when I found the church that has led to the biggest transformation of my life, I didn’t know what to think. I mean I knew I was home. A place so strange that felt so familiar. Between watching online when I can’t be physically present and being there when I can, I have not missed a Sunday since the Sunday before Veteran’s Day last year.

I had a taste of something special. I wanted more. I dug in deeper and have turned the course of my family’s life around. If anyone was wondering how I became a Christian overnight, not just title but practice, I want you to look at the link I am sharing. Bayshore Community Church is located in Rehoboth Beach, De, Fenwick Island, De, and Millsboro, De and is live on YouTube, Facebook, and Spotify every Sunday. I can’t walk you through the doors myself, but if part of you feels funny about walking into church, I want you to take a look at our church. Watch a whole video. Then go through the other videos by title and click one that speaks to you. I spent the last 2 decades believing that church wasn’t for me, but I promise you with the right church you will see that God absolutely is for you.

Motivation

I found this picture tonight on LinkedIn. I am driven to push my book as far as it will let me go. The picture is a sidewalk with a chalk composition that reads “One day you will tell your story of how you’ve overcome what you’re going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.” Write it down!! Journal!! I didn’t do anything profound when I wrote my book. Your story could be the words somebody needs to read right now.

Baptized

Sunday, July7, 2021, I went public for Jesus. Having felt the depths of despair and hopelessness, and having found His hand reaching down to me, I climbed the steps of the baptismal and put my feet in. A video played beforehand recounting the last almost year bringing me from darkness to light. On Sunday I put a death to my old, sinful life and instead was reborn in Christ. My book definitely illustrates the level of stress that I had allowed myself to fall victim to and control me. I did things my way for years with no better outcome. Today, I have Jesus. When something comes my way that I can’t handle, it goes straight up to Him to deal with. I’m not a preacher by any means. I’m not a perfect person by any means, but having a church gives me the resources to get through pretty much anything. If you haven’t found your way there, I would encourage you to do so. If it’s not your thing, don’t worry it wasn’t mine either. I just pray that you find your way there before you let yourself go too far. Self-neglect is painful and leads to some wicked darkness. Jesus Christ is the light of the world and the source of salvation.

The Song That Got Me

My journey to Christ was not easy. It was not joyous. There was a lot of pain and suffering that I kept hidden from a lot of people. When I heard a particular rap song on the radio that was anatomically offensive, I turned off the mainstream radio and began listening to KLOVE. There was a song that played when I needed it most in my life. It hit me like a ton of bricks and made so much sense. This has been the song that drew tears while I was driving for the first several times that I heard it. I began learning it and singing it at the top of my lungs until it hurt. I love this song, and Matthew West has a very strong message in it. I could not believe the relevancy of this song in my life. Then months later I discovered this music video and cried it out again. I knew this song long before I ever heard it, but hearing it broke me of so much pride. I was tired of burying my feelings. It was time for the truth to be told.